06/02/2011
Commonest word uttered by everybody…. “LOVE”
There are two types of love.
C.S.Lewis has divided love into these two kinds:
1. Need – Love
2. Gift – love
Abrahm Maslow also divides love into two kinds
1. Deficiency – Love
2. Being – Love
The distinction is significant and has to be understood.
The need-love or deficiency-love depends on the other so it is not true love – it is a need and it is immature love. As it depends on other, you use other as a means. You exploit; you manipulate; you dominate the other so the other is reduced and almost destroyed. Same is done by the other. So it only appears like love or can be safely said as pretended love.
The other one is true love, mature love. In this love you start loving rather than needing. Hence you start overflowing, sharing, giving. The gestalt changes, the emphasis is totally different. This type of loving person is like a fully blossomed flower who gives its fragrance to all and even to the heel which crushes it.
And the most important thing to be remembered is 1st type of love should reach 2nd type otherwise it will get itself converted into “HATE”.
This is the reason hate is seen between two friends, Husband-wife, Parents-children and every other relationship.
K.K.Sharma alias
Sunday, February 6, 2011
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